I can’t help but feel empathy for the year 2020 as it’s going down in history as the worst ever. Let’s be mindful that this year is not over yet. We still have three beautiful months left and we can make them count. Please exercise your privilege and VOTE for change this November.
We’ve entered into the Fall Equinox which always puts me in a reflective space. I’ve been thinking a lot about vulnerability and surrender lately. We live in a culture where we are taught to be strong, independent, and “in control” of our destiny. As a parent, I cringe at the number of times I’ve told my daughter how important it is to be self-sufficient and never put herself in a position where she has to rely on anyone else. This is how most of us have been raised and as Mothers we want our daughters to feel confident and strong. And, while it comes from a place of good, I wonder, is this idea that we don’t need help from anyone else actually sending the wrong message?
In her book, Daring Greatly, brilliant Brené Brown, describes vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” It’s that unstable feeling we get when we step out of our comfort zone or do something that forces us to loosen control. She reminds us that honoring those feelings is when we find the courage to overcome our own limiting beliefs about ourselves or a situation that is blocking us from moving forward. Vulnerability is the core, the heart, and the center of all meaningful human experiences.
So why are we teaching our children to go it alone? I’m having new conversations with my daughter about the fact that we are humans who have been divinely designed to connect with another, to love, and to give and to receive support. While our children need to learn to be independent, it’s important that they also recognize that we all need help from time to time. When we can shift the paradigm and learn to surrender, ask for and accept that help, we find our way back to a place of power and strength.
When we let go of the crazy misconception that we are supposed to be superhuman…that’s when the magic happens. I encourage you to release and let go of the burdens that weigh so heavily on you right now and make you feel alone it in all. Take a deep breath and reach out for a helping hand from someone you trust. Then stay open to receiving their love and support with appreciation and gratitude. I’m certain you will begin to see things in an entirely new light.
High Vibe + Grateful Heart, XO, Jenn