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Game Changer Interview: Signe Nelson Ayochok

Game Changer Interview: Signe Nelson Ayochok

Name of Your Business

DeSigner Feng Shui and Clutter Be Gone.

How Does Your Work Enable You to Connect to and Fulfill Your Life Purpose/Passion?

When employing the principles of Feng Shui, I seek, find or create beauty and harmony within myself, my home, my community and my world. Helping people is my purpose, beauty is my passion.

Who Is Your Ideal Client and Why?

Someone with the intention and desire to shift their life, someone open to the blessings that change brings.

What Unique Offerings Do You Provide?

I provide Blessing ceremonies, Chi adjustments, Blueprint reading and Site placement, with a side of Astrology and a dash of Angels.

Who Was Your Role Model Growing Up? How Did That Person’s Actions Impact You?

Buddha- I learned everything in moderation-including moderation and that by questioning my inner authority-the little ego- I am not just running on autopilot.

Favorite Place to Escape and Refuel?

The Forest, trees, any wooded green area.

Top 3 Ways to Treat Yourself to Self-Care?

Getting body work done on a regular basis. Spending time with girlfriends. Prayer and meditation.

How Do You Express Yourself Creatively?

Playing the Ukulele, coloring, doing crafts, shaking my bootey!

Last Memorable Book You Read and Why?

The Untethered Soul. It was written in such a way as to remind me again how vast and unlimited I AM.

Favorite Movie and Why?

Mary Poppins-Magic and positivity.

“Go to” Quote or Mantra that Grounds You?

Thank You God. Om Mani Padme Hum. And when I can’t get back to sleep- Nam Myoho Renge Kyo-always works like a charm!

Accomplishment Are You Most Proud of?

Giving birth to my amazing, decent and compassionate son and daughter.

Best Lesson Learned in Life So Far?

What ever someone is accusing you of- they are doing it themselves.

Advice to Younger Self?

Start working with your Angels now.

What Do You Love Best About Yourself (physical trait or personality characteristic) and Why?

My sense of humor and my laugh-it brings smiles and joy to others.

Any Advice for Women Considering Joining the SheBreathes Collaborative?

You Need Your GirlFriends. Period. Bring your girlfriend and make some more!

Any Message You Have for Our Community?

I am so excited to be in community with women who desire to not only grow themselves but also seek to make their worlds richer, fuller, funnier and more sacred with other like minded Goddesses.

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Game Changer Interview: Maggie Dion

Game Changer Interview: Maggie Dion

Name of Your Business

RejuvInnate Nutrition

How Does Your Work Enable You to Connect to and Fulfill Your Life Purpose/Passion?

In an interview during my corporate days I was asked where do you see yourself in 10 years. I told them I saw myself helping others, despite that not being the appropriate response for the specific role. I’ve always had a passion for learning about different communities and helping others. It’s the only common theme through everything I’ve done my entire life.
I’m so grateful that my personal health struggles introduced me to the functional medicine approach to healing and motivated me to help others avoid years of unnecessary symptoms and suffering. As a Functional Diagnostic Nutrition Practitioner, I am able to help clients dig into the root cause of symptoms, reverse diseases they were told required medication for life, and restore the vitality that is essential for doing the things they love in life. There is nothing cooler than helping people abolish symptoms, empowering people to restore their health, and enabling young families to grow.

Who Is Your Ideal Client and Why?

My ideal client is someone who is looking for a holistic and natural approach to healing, not a quick fix or magic pill. My programs are centered on a combination of functional lab work and holistic lifestyle changes that are designed to reteach the body to do what it is suppose to do. Uncovering the interconnectedness of imbalances and creating an environment for healing is extremely rewarding, but requires a willingness to make modifications in regards to diet, rest, exercise, and stress reduction.

What Unique Offerings Do You Provide?

My approach to healing is the perfect combination of holistic health coaching and applied functional medicine. In addition to providing individualized guidance on lifestyle modifications, clients can run at home functional lab tests that reveal the root cause of their symptoms and true healing opportunities. Covering up a symptom with a pill doesn’t address the reason the symptom showed up in the first place. This means that the imbalance will persist and most likely will show up in a different part of the body with a different symptom.

This is an important distinction. Symptoms are the results of a problem, they aren’t the problem. Solely focusing on symptoms can be misleading and frustrating. One symptom can have numerous root causes. For example, low energy could be due to adrenal dysfunction, hormone imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, thyroid insufficiencies, chronic stress, compromised digestion, a pathogen overgrowth, and other root causes. Without testing, you are left to guess which of these factors may be at play. To further complicate matters, everything in the body is interconnected. Thus, when one system is out of balance others will follow suit. Instead of starting an exhausting cycle of trial and error, I offer clients the ability to test not guess. Once we determine what is at play for you as an individual we can create a unique program that is catered to your healing opportunities and lifestyle.

I specialize in imbalances pertaining to: – Digestion & Food Sensitivities – Hormones – Infertility – Adrenals & Energy – Weight Loss – Cardiovascular – Diabetes – Thyroid – Chronic Pain, Migraines and Headaches – Neurotransmitter

Who Was Your Role Model Growing Up? How Did That Person’s Actions Impact You?

It may sound cheesy, but my greatest role model growing up was my mom. Her position as my role model has strengthened exponentially now that I’m older and can appreciate everything she stands for. While we were growing up she didn’t care what other people were doing. She never strayed from her morals or wavered despite social pressures. I can truly attribute my passion for holistic health and natural healing to the seeds she planted in me from the very beginning. My mom always encouraged us to eat high quality whole foods and get outside to play. There were no Pop Tarts and Lunchables in our household! Instead she was cutting the sugar content in recipes in half. As a kid, I obviously found this frustrating at times, but now I can’t thank her enough for setting my four siblings and me up for success. When we got sick or an annoying symptom she was quick to recommend a natural remedy rather than throw a pill at it. She actually recommended remedies that I now share with clients. Unfortunately, I resisted, had to go through my own health crisis journey, and was inspired to go to the School of Applied Functional Medicine before I became a true believer and practitioner. You could say she was my first introduction to functional medicine, even though I don’t think there was even a name for it back then!

Favorite Place to Escape and Refuel?

My favorite place to escape is anywhere near water! Whether it’s the beach, a lake, or simply a small pond in the center of town, I found water to be extremely calming and grounding. It’s a simple reminder to slow down and focus on enjoying the moment.

Top 3 Ways to Treat Yourself to Self-Care?

Some of my top forms of self care include escaping for a walk in nature, Epsom salt baths, and a good face mask. But my favorite is practicing meditating or deep breathing exercises while laying on an acupressure mat. What’s better than loading up on multiple self care practices at once?

How Do You Express Yourself Creatively?

My biggest creative outlet is cooking up something fun or new in the kitchen. I like to consider myself more of a “chef” than a baker. If I have a little extra of an ingredient, I’m in a veggie kind of mood, or I just really like a specific herb you better believe I’m tossing it in the pan. Unfortunately that is a no go for baking. When I’m in the mood for extra chocolate (ie. always!) that can completely throw off the balance of the recipe. Baking has too many rules and is far too precise to get my creative juices flowing. For me, cooking is a time to put on some music, zone out and have some fun. I love experimenting and seeing how it turns out!

Last Memorable Book You Read and Why?

The last memorable book I read was “Food: What the Heck Should I Eat?” by Dr. Mark Hyman. While this may not be the inspiring book you were expecting me to call out, the entire time I was reading I kept thinking “Finally!” Dr. Hyman does an incredible job of debunking many of the lies and myths about food circulating the internet and health magazines. This book is the perfect balance of research backed facts and easy to read surprising information. I’ve had clients share some pretty crazy nutrition concepts they’ve both read and followed over the years. This book is everything I’ve ever wanted to convey to set the record straight about what you should eat or avoid for optimal health.

Favorite Movie and Why?

My favorite movie is Hook. Yes, the Peter Pan sequel with Robin William and Julia Roberts. It’s just a funny, easy to watch movie that is a great reality check to help us not take ourselves so seriously. It’s a much needed reminder to relax and focus on what’s important in life.

“Go to” Quote or Mantra that Grounds You?

“Everything happens for a reason.” I have found that the things in life that I have stressed about the most were all part of a greater plan that otherwise wouldn’t have played out for the better without the setback or stressful moment. Now that I have internalized this lesson I’m much better at stressing less and enjoying the ride. Because let’s be honest, life is for enjoying not just getting through!

Accomplishment Are You Most Proud of?

I’m most proud of achieving my Information Storage Management certification. My first job out of college with at a big IT company. I had ZERO background in technology. To give you some perspective, on my first day a coworker watched me struggle for 30 minutes trying to set up my computer and monitors before offering to help. In an attempt to advance my corporate career, I decided to take this very detailed test on data storage and protection. And to my surprise, I passed! Numerous peers who went to college for IT failed, but somehow I pulled it off. Despite later abandoning my corporate career in IT, I am proud of this accomplishment because it taught me that I can learn absolutely anything I put my mind to. It gave me the confidence to enroll in three nutrition/ functional medicine programs and launch my business to help others reverse disease and optimize their health.

Best Lesson Learned in Life So Far?

Are you living your eulogy or your resume? Arianna Huffington was a guest speaker at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition and she shared one of the greatest lessons of all. Many of us go through life hyper focused on building our resumes and professional achievements at the expense of what really matters in life. No one stands up at a funeral and says “Her best achievement was being promoted to Vice President.” Instead, they focus on the kind of person you were or the relationships and memories you shared. As someone who is extremely type A, driven, and competitive the message really hit home for me. It is so important to prioritize family, friends, and living in the moment. There will always be work. The relationships and memories will only be there if you show up. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/arianna-huffington/are-you-living-your-eulogy-or-your-resume_b_3936937.html

Advice to Younger Self?

Listen. Listen to your heart, gut, mind, and body. Ignore the temptations to follow what I “should do” in favor of things that make you thrive. I think I would have gotten to where I’m suppose to be, where I’m here today, a lot faster if I listened to my instincts earlier on in life.

What Do You Love Best About Yourself (physical trait or personality characteristic) and Why?

My favorite personality traits are my empathy and realism. I wouldn’t be effective in my work as a functional nutritionist if I couldn’t relate to my clients on a human and compassionate level. I suffered for the better half of a decade from a long list of debilitating symptoms. I saw numerous practitioners and specialists who were quick to cover up symptoms with a pill and ignored my quest to resolve the root cause of my imbalances. While my illness and symptoms may have prevented me from having the typical experience of someone in their 20’s, I’m not upset or bitter. Instead, I’m grateful that it helped my to find my passion and enables me to be more effective in my work. My experience allows me to better relate to my clients through our shared experience. I understand their frustrations and have empathy for the tough journey they are on. I’m better able to listen to them and design a program that is unique to their experience.

This empathy and compassion also allows me to approach the healing process with a sense of realism. I get that no one wants to be on a strict program as they head off to vacation. I sure didn’t want to miss out on the cake and festivities at every family gathering and holiday. Life happens and sure doesn’t stop just because you are working to optimize your health. I understand this and work with clients to modify their programs so they don’t miss out on the fun in life. It’s all about balance, not perfection!

Any Advice for Women Considering Joining the SheBreathes Collaborative?

A vital part of health and wellness is having a strong community and a sense of belonging. You can consume all the kale and green juice in the world, but you may not feel truly alive if you don’t feel a sense of support, camaraderie, and empowerment. Having a strong tribe of like minded women to support you in your health and wellness journey, wherever you may be on that path, is critical. I’m so grateful to have found the SheBreathes community. I’m greeted by an immediate sense of calm and a new friendly face every time I walk in the door. Everyone deserves to experience the magic of SheBreathes!

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3 Reasons Boundaries Are the Foundation for Happiness

3 Reasons Boundaries Are the Foundation for Happiness

This month, the Life on Fire community is reading Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown. I talked about the book club and why this book means so much to me in my first ever video post – check it out!

In the book, Brené talks about the acronym BRAVING (Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgment, and Generosity) as the key to building trusting relationships with ourselves and others. In order to find the courage to stand alone when needed, we must develop this trust. So this month, my blog will be dedicated to looking at each of these principles in greater detail. I will explain my take on the concepts and introduce tools for using each on in our daily lives. I am strongly committed to empowering women and men to live their most authentic lives, and the BRAVING framework is a darn good place to start.

Boundaries

What are boundaries?

“Boundaries—You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.” ― Brené Brown, Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash

Do you remember your elementary school playground? Perhaps you played the game: Red Light, Green Light- our first encounter with setting and communicating boundaries. Personal boundaries are like our own traffic lights that say when to go, stop, or slow down. Just like the traffic lights we use to drive through intersections without crashing into other cars, our boundaries allow us to operate safely in the world. A clear and understandable system helps everyone to feel safe and secure while interacting.

Work:

At work, this can look like having clear expectations for you and your co-workers that when someone is working with the door closed to their office, they are not to be disturbed unless it’s a true emergency. It hopefully includes clear messages throughout your company about what the boundaries of harassment look and sound like, plus a clear chain of response in case of violation. It might mean letting your chatty cubicle-mate know that when you have headphones on, you’re trying to focus on a task and will talk to them later during a break.

Home:

At home, boundaries can mean having a chore schedule that clearly assigns which chores are done by whom and when. It could mean letting your partner or children know that when you’ve had a stressful day at work, you need half an hour of quiet alone time to recoup and will play with them afterwards. It could be an agreement that you won’t enter your teenager’s room without permission as long as they keep it reasonably clean. Perhaps you set limits with your friends so that they know not to ask you to go out drinking on weeknights, but that you’d be all-In for a wine and paint night on Saturday.

I think of boundaries as the manual for how to interact with each other peacefully.

 

3 Reasons Why Boundaries are the Foundation for A Happy Life

1. Prevent Resentment

When I was in my 20s, it seemed like every time I had a conversation with someone, I heard about another person getting married or having children. Now that I’m 40, it’s turned into who’s getting divorced next? Resentment at the core of every relationship turned sour, whether they are intimate relationships, friendships, or working relationships. Whatever the ultimate cause of a divorce or someone quitting their job is the “final straw”, but there is usually a whole heap of hay bales underneath. Having clear and consistent discussions about your needs is required to stop resentment before it starts. The little things that irk you are tiny boundary violations that over the long haul becomes death by a thousand cuts. If someone is doing something that continually bugs you because they didn’t take your objection seriously the first five times, schedule a serious chat with them. Explain that your relationship is too important to be eroded by resentment, and ask if they can really listen and respond to your needs.

2.   Eliminate Loneliness

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Loneliness is a health risk.

Imagine how much more compassion and understanding we would have for each other as a whole if we knew each others’ boundaries! With new studies showing that more than half of all Americans say no one really knows them, it’s time to improve our communication. Humans are a social species, and doctors are declaring our collective loneliness a health crisis. According to Forbes, an “…analysis of 70 studies found that loneliness, isolation, and living alone all had a significant effect on a person’s risk for early death. The researchers suggested that the impact was similar to the effect that obesity has on mortality rates.” (Forbes, 2017). If our tendency is to isolate because we fear speaking up about our limits, we are actually putting ourselves at risk of early death. Just having friends and going to social events doesn’t mean you aren’t lonely. To make real connections we have to have that feeling of safety, which comes back to having clear and consistent boundaries.

 

 

“More than half of survey respondents — 54 percent — said they always or sometimes feel that no one knows them well.”  ― Rhitu Chatterjee, “Americans Are A Lonely Lot, And Young People Bear The Heaviest Burden”. May 1, 2018 npr.org

Healthy boundaries are a safety net for bold exploration. Photo by Martin Cehelsky on Unsplash

3.   Boldly Go

Decades of parenting research has demonstrated that when limits are clear and consistent, they feel more empowered to explore and take healthy risks that help them grow. There is freedom in knowing exactly where the lines of the sandbox are. How much more productive would your work day be if you had clear understandings of your boss’ and coworkers’ boundaries and expectations? I think we’ve all had that boss where the office had to tiptoe around, never sure about what was going to set him/her off today, right? It’s emotionally draining, and it certainly doesn’t encourage creativity or innovation. Knowing that you and your BFF have a method for clearing grievances without shame or judgement is a ticket to lifelong friendship and more open, honest sharing. It’s a wonderful paradox that knowing the limits creates the most freedom.

 

Tools for Creating and Maintaining Boundaries

Sitting on the ground in a beautiful nature scene is wonderful, but not required.
Meditation

Use a guided meditation to visualize your energetic boundaries. Recognize that you are connected to all living things on Earth, and they are connected to you. Also know that you are your own entity, and imagine a bubble or forcefield surrounding you that allows you to safely interact with the world. Use affirmations like: “I am strong in my power. Power with others, Power to create.” Meditations in apps like Calm or Stop, Breathe, & Think that are compassion building or loving kindness meditations also help to reinforce boundaries. If boundary violations are stressing you out in the moment, use some of the tactics here in my article on mindfulness for real life.

Know Your Values

In order to communicate our boundaries, we need to have a complete understanding of what they are and why they’re important. Not in a general way, but specifically to YOU – what are your values and how might someone unknowingly violate them? For me, Authenticity is a core value, and if someone is holding back parts of themselves, I feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know that to trust others, I would much prefer brutal honesty to sugar coating or speaking in circles as an effort to be “nice” about criticism. Perhaps your strongest value is Family, so a surefire way to start building resentment at work is when HR gives you crap about taking time off to go to the school play or a wedding. Get reflective and make a list of the things you value most, and use them to identify areas where you need to set clear boundaries.

Write a script

What will you say to communicate your boundaries ahead of time, when starting relationships? What will you say when someone crosses your boundaries? Pre-planning what you will say allows you to thoughtfully respond to situations, rather than reacting or retracting. If this causes a lot of anxiety for you, I strongly recommend using something like Tim Ferriss’ “Fear Setting” tactics. Go through your values list and write out ways to communicate your values to others. Identify scenarios that are likely to push your boundaries and create responses that you’d feel good about saying. Practice them out loud with a compassionate friend, therapist, or a coach. You’ll feel much more confident in the moment!

Have a tactic to share or thoughts to add? Disagree with my analysis? Please leave a comment below!

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Article from Devon Grilly